The Dao of Life – Part 1 – Equilibrium Through Conflict
Everything that has come to the existence in this universe flows smoothly between two extremes, day and night, hot and cold, fast and slow, increase and decrease, good and bad: the conflicting and yet balanced poles of nature.
These two extremes (Yin and Yang) create a strong force field that holds everything in its balanced position.
‘Night’ at the extreme point of itself cannot reach further; it must turn to ‘day’. Every element that is trying to reach outside the equilibrium state will be drawn back by the force field of nature.
Snow can sit on top of a mountain for a while, only waiting to be melted down by the sun and flows down towards its next equilibrium state. Small rills unite to form a river flowing downwards, and the more it goes, the more powerful it becomes. It roars and circumvents every obstacle, seeking its equilibrium state.
The mighty river eventually grows calm and slow, when it gets near its destination. From snow to water, from roaring to calmness, and in the end, it embraces the destiny and fades into the ocean.
Water can sit inside the safety of the ocean just for a while, only to be vaporized by the sun and begin another journey towards another equilibrium state.
The Dao of Life
This is the Dao of Life: the ever-maintained balance of nature and ever-changing equilibriums. Life is a constant move around the circle, always maintaining the equilibrium.
By moving around the circle of life, different meanings emerge. ‘Down’ defines ‘Up’, and ‘Calmness’ defines ‘Turbulence’.
The poles of nature give meaning to the entities and concepts. ‘Beauty’ is a complex concept, gaining meaning only in the existence of ‘Ugliness’. The existence of a ‘beautiful thing’ entails the presence of an ‘ugly thing’ in return. No one can survive without the other. ‘Good’ describes ‘Bad’ and vice versa. The existence of ‘Poor’ defines the meaning of ‘Rich’.
These pairs are all different and separate from each other, and at the same time, connected strongly together. ‘Good’ and ‘Bad’ together create the ‘Whole’. Is there any other way to understand ‘Good’ without knowing ‘Bad’?
Having strength in one area necessitates the existence of weakness in another area. Driving fast you can reach your destination quicker, at the same time, it deprives you of the sceneries, and considerably increases the possibility of an accident.
Freedom, Diversity, and Difference
If there was only one place to go, and only one situation could happen, there would be no freedom at all. Freedom means diversity; it means ‘being different’. Being free inevitably means the existence of difference between things, and this, in turn, entails the existence of conflicts.
This is, in fact, the beauty of nature. The universe is full of conflicts, and there is an overabundance of them indeed, yet the whole system is completely viable and always in equilibrium.
Everywhere you look, you can see conflicting and opposing entities, and for each entity, there is always an opposing item. For every ‘Male’, there is a ‘Female’; for each ‘Proton’, there is an ‘Electron’. Even these days, physicists are searching for the ‘Anti Matter’ as the opposite being for the ‘Mater’.
It is also true in a much bigger perspective: the combination of rotations and a mixture of different and opposing gravity forces that have held the planets and the stars in the state of equilibrium for millions of years.
That is the reason, I believe, understanding ‘conflict’ and the ‘process of managing it’ are the most valuable lessons that we, as human beings, can (and must) learn. We have to learn how to identify ‘conflict’, and how to ‘manage’ it ‘effectively’.
Through million years of evolutions, Mother Nature has proven to be a harsh and an extremely serious teacher. If we want to be a part of nature, we must learn how to live in it!
We must learn how to manage the conflicts; otherwise, we should endure the consequences. Feeling down, upset, beaten, exhausted, and weary, are some punishments nature has provided to teach us the way!
We will continue to feel bad until we manage to deal with the conflict positively or be destroyed by it. Like that rock in the river, it should either reach an agreement with the river flow or perish down in pieces.
Nature Has No Mercy
This is the bitter fact about life. It is tough, and it is not forgiving. It pushes you upwards the spiral on which you have only two choices: go up the path or be pushed off it. There is no way back, nor there is any way around it.
You cannot ignore your child; it is yours to manage. Your bitter partner cannot be ignored; they are there, right in the middle of your life. You cannot close your eyes to the behaviour of your colleague; he is always there to cheer you up with his tirades!
It is ‘Happiness‘ that you need to redefine and learn to achieve. Life is yours, and you are the only one that can choose either to appreciate and enjoy the absolute happiness it can offer, or to suffer the punishments and unremitting misery of the Mother Nature’s classroom!
We must just find the way towards the equilibrium. Anything moving outside this balance will cause pain and discomfort; it is our eternal responsibility to be successful and live happily. We are bound by the forces of nature to only two options: either to be successful and enjoy the abundance of life and the bliss of happiness, or to be wiped out by the unforgiving ruthless nature.